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September 2, 2022

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What to do if you are experiencing delayed ejaculation?

Unable to ejaculate during sex? Experiencing frequent delays in ejaculation? Keep reading to learn more about the causes and treatments of delayed ejaculation.

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Are you finding it hard to ejaculate after sex? Do you need an unusually long time before you orgasm? You are not alone! While premature ejaculation is more heard of, delayed ejaculation is also a legitimate health condition. This guide covers all you need to know about delayed ejaculation. We hope this will help you manage your sexual health concerns.

What is Delayed Ejaculation?

Delayed ejaculation is a health concern that makes it difficult or impossible to have an orgasm and/or ejaculate, even when aroused.

The exact time between starting to have intercourse and ejaculating differs from person to person, but generally only by a few minutes. However, ejaculating might take much longer - sometimes as long as 45 minutes - for people experiencing delayed ejaculation. Even with intense sexual stimulation, many of them might not be able to ejaculate at all. Others might need to engage in alternative sexual behaviours, such as masturbation, to have an orgasm.

Symptoms of Delayed Ejaculation

While the symptoms of delayed ejaculation are varied, the ones listed below can help you understand if you are experiencing delayed ejaculation: 

  • When having sex with your partner or when masturbating, you could find it challenging to climax and ejaculate for a prolonged period (25 to 30 minutes). 
  • Some individuals with penises with delayed ejaculation may have trouble ejaculating during sexual activity, but can orgasm easily when masturbating.
  • Due to the exertion involved in having sex, you could get tired and need a break. This might lead to your partner feeling irritable, or you might stop having an erection during sex. 
  • Your failure to orgasm and ejaculate may cause you and/or your partner to feel concerned, frustrated, or sad. Your romantic relationships might suffer as a result.

What Causes Delayed Ejaculation?

The underlying causes of delayed ejaculation might range from psychological concerns to medical conditions or even the usage of specific medications.

Psychological Causes

Some of the psychological reasons for delayed ejaculation are:

  • Fear of intimacy: Apprehensions about intimacy or worries about impregnating your partner might interfere with timely ejaculation. 
  • Mental health concerns: Delayed ejaculation is associated with several mental health issues, including depression, anxiety disorders, and obsessive-compulsive disorder. 
  • Frequent masturbation: There is a chance that regular masturbation or binge-watching porn could cause sexual dysfunction.
  • Excessive guilt: It may be more difficult for you to orgasm and ejaculate if you come from a religious or cultural background where sex is viewed as improper or sinful. 
  • Past trauma: Bad sexual experiences in the past or a traumatic event involving sexual activity could hamper the time you take to ejaculate. 

Physical Causes

Here are a few probable physical causes of delayed ejaculation: 

  • Certain medications: You may experience delayed ejaculation if you use certain drugs, like antidepressants, high blood pressure (hypertension) medications, anti-seizure medications, and antipsychotic medications.
  • Alcohol consumption: Numerous problems with sexual performance, including erectile dysfunction, are linked to alcohol
  • Nerve damage: Delay in ejaculation might result from injury to the pelvic nerves that control orgasm and ejaculation. Delay in ejaculation can also result from spinal cord damage, strokes, and diabetic neuropathy. 
  • Infections: It could be challenging to ejaculate if you have urinary tract infections.

Treatment for Delayed Ejaculation

There are various treatment options available for reversing delayed ejaculation. We’ve listed the most viable options below: 

Therapy 

Therapy - like sex therapy or psychotherapy - can effectively treat delayed ejaculation.  

Your psychotherapist might suggest you work with your partner to reduce the pressure to perform sexually and try to be more relaxed during sex. On the other hand, working on your relationship and intimacy with your partner may be recommended by a sex therapist if an underlying relationship issue is delaying ejaculation. 

Book a judgement-free consultation with our welcoming therapists today and take the first step towards a fulfilling sexual life. 

Medication 

Medicines can also help you manage delayed ejaculation. You’d have to consult your doctor and explain the case in detail, after which they will conduct a diagnosis and prescribe appropriate medication. 

The hassle of stocking up on medicines and the stigma associated with buying pills for sexual health can make you feel overwhelmed, but we’ve got you covered. You can opt for our discreet, timely medication delivery at your doorstep after the consultation. 

Lifestyle Changes

Making the following modifications to your way of life may be helpful if a lifestyle problem brings on your delayed ejaculation:

  1. Have an open conversation with your partner. Performance anxiety is frequently the cause of delayed ejaculation. To reduce anxiety and make sex more relaxing and pleasant, consider being upfront with your partner about any sex-related concerns you may have. 
  2. Delays in ejaculation and other sexual dysfunctions can be caused by alcohol and drug usage. Seek therapy if you suffer from alcohol or drug addiction. 

Men’s sexual health is deeply stigmatised in our country, and conversations around it are limited. Wouldn’t it be easy knowing you are not alone and have a social support system for all things sexual health?

Our community, Cancel Stigma, has got your back! Engage in judgement-free conversations with individuals who have experienced similar issues and vent all you want after a rough day. 

References What is Delayed Ejaculation? Causes & Treatments. (2021, August 24). Hims. Retrieved August 30, 2022, from https://www.forhims.com/blog/delayed-ejaculation-causes-treatment